Warning: Refusing to Forgive can ruin your health.

September 12, 2016


Did you know that unforgiveness can be deadly?

According to research done by Dr. Michael Berry, 61 per cent of cancer patients have a problem with forgiveness. Negative emotions caused by harboring a grudge can shorten your life.

Why are people unable to forgive?

Forgiveness seems impossible in situations such as marital infidelity, murder, or car accident. The list could go on and on. Broken relationships in families cause great pain and division. Friendships are cast aside due to wounded feelings.

Feelings associated with unforgiveness.

When holding a grudge against an offender, thoughts of revenge creep in. You feel wounded and thus justified. Negative feelings take over. It’s like biting into bitter fruit and having the taste linger in your mouth. Anger and bitterness can cause depression and anxiety. Sometimes you can feel distant from God. Your other relationships can suffer.

Forgiveness and You

Do you find it difficult to pardon others for an offense?
Unfair treatment can leave you feeling betrayed. Anger and resentment often follow. If left unchecked, these emotions can be damaging.
Consider the account of Joseph and his brothers in The Old Testament.

“Now when they saw him afar off, even before he came near them, they conspired against him to kill him. Then they said to one another, “Look, this dreamer is coming!  Come therefore, let us now kill him and cast him into some pit; and we shall say, ‘Some wild beast has devoured him.’ We shall see what will become of his dreams!” Genesis 37:18-20 NKJV

Can you imagine being thrown into a pit and later, sold as a slave to a passing caravan? Even if this sounds drastic for today, consider feelings you have experienced in a broken relationship.

In the account of Joseph, he did forgive his brothers. But what if he hadn’t? Would he have been able to cope with his captivity? Perhaps he would have succumbed to temptation to enter an adulterous affair with Potiphar’s wife. And he wouldn’t have been able to follow God’s plan.

The clinical staff at Mayo clinic recommends, “As you let go of grudges, you’ll no longer define your life by how you’ve been hurt. You might even find compassion and understanding.”

In my own life, as a Christian, I am required to forgive others because Christ has pardoned me for my sins. Believe me, I know letting go of  an offense isn’t easy. Through prayer and reading scripture, I can work through it.
Hanging on to negative feelings related to an offense can make you sick. Statistics show the effect on mental and physical health. Are you harboring anger and resentment? How could you get rid of these lingering and destructive emotions? Please feel free to share with me.

Ten Amazing Quotes to Inspire Peace of Mind

August 2, 2016
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Unsplash by Michael Hirsch


How does a quote affect you?

Do quotes inspire you, stir your thinking, or are they insignificant?


To find meaning in a quotation, it is important to study the key words. Discover the emotion behind them. Sometimes they bring joy, happiness, and enrich the mind. Other quotations can bring comfort in grief or sadness. Consider these ten quotations. Do they leave you with a sense of peace?


“Her ways are ways of pleasantness, and all her paths are peace.”

Proverbs 3:17


“Still in thy right hand carry gentle peace,

To silence envious tongues: be just, and fear not.”

William Shakespeare


“Let us therefore follow after the things which make for peace.”

Romans 14:19


“In peace, Love tunes the shepherd’s reed.”

Sir Walter Scott


“He makes a solitude and calls it peace.”

Lord Byron


“Peace is more important than all justice; and peace was not made for the sake of justice, but justice for the sake of peace.”

Martin Luther


“No lovelier hills than mine have laid

 my tired thoughts to rest:

No peace of lovelier valleys made

Like peace within my breast,”

Walter De la Mare


“When other helpers fail, and comforts flee, Help of the helpless, O abide with me!”

John Keble

6 Remarkable Ways Music Can Improve Your Life

July 18, 2016

Is it possible that music can improve your life? My answer is a resounding yes. For those seeking serenity, exploring the benefits will prove helpful.


“The music in my heart I bore long after it was heard no more.” William Wordsworth file9571346985888 Mogue


What Music Can Do For You

  • Activates different areas of the brain

  • Lifts mood

  • Provides relaxation

  • Reduces anxiety

  • Benefits those dealing with serious illness

  • Provides spiritual strength


A Finnish study indicates multiple areas of the brain are affected by music. Emotions and creativity are affected by rhythm and tone. The beat influences the body’s motor network.


Research shows that listening to music benefits the brain by increasing spatial reasoning. Adults who had music lessons as a child are more sensitive to music. This doesn’t mean that you can’t appreciate music, if you’ve never had training. But it does prove that music is beneficial during a child’s development.


As a child, music was a part of my world. My parents were involved theater work, so I was exposed to a variety of music. From Broadway music to Rock and Roll in my teens, music became a part of my life. But Classical became a favorite in my adult years.



A Natural Mood Elevator

Music can lift your mood. Classical music is soothing and used in hospitals. In surgical and OB units, music provides relaxation, aiding in pain control.  Oncology units use music therapists to work with cancer patients. The therapy is known to improve mood and decrease anxiety.



A Spiritual Connection

Music provides spiritual strength. Christians sing praises to The Father making a spiritual connection to Him. Hymns provide comfort during grief. Other forms of Christian music elevate the spirit through uplifting words and rhythms.


My heart is steadfast, O God, my heart is steadfast; I will sing, yes, I will sing praises! Psalm 57:7



A way To Destress

I believe music helped me through nursing school. During those years, I belonged to a group called Up With Charity. Accompanied by guitars, we sang religious folk songs for churches. Through my participation, I experienced hope and courage.

Inspirational music can lift your spirit and send positive messages to your brain

Consider listening to music on your drive home from work. Taking time to destress after a long day can be beneficial. Hearing a melody can redirect your thoughts. If insomnia is a problem, try listening to tranquil music about 30 minutes before going to sleep.

What benefits have you found in listening to music? What type do you find relaxing?